Friday, May 08, 2009

I went on a field trip with the 5th grade the other day. We toured the Museum of Fine Arts. While a dozen boys were using the men's room, I waited and read some upcoming events. They show art house type films and one is called "Who Does She Think She Is?" the premise was listed as

"A woman still has to choose between what she loves and who she loves. What if she didn't?"

My son's teacher walked up behind me. We are pretty good friends and joke around a lot. I told her to read that and give me the answer to the question. She read it then looked at me with her brow furrowed, puzzled.

"She'd be a MAN." I answered, to which she burst out laughing and agreed.

I had my first child at age 22 and he is 22 now. I have been making the choice about who I love and what I love for a very long time. I couldn't take a demanding career. I already had one raising 3 boys. I couldn't take the job that involved travel. I was forced to travel to the pediatrician, the dentist and the grocery store.

My husband? When his job requires a trip to Singapore or London or wherever, there is no question about who will take care of the kids and the house. He just packs a bag and goes.

I have always envied his freedom. Though consciously, I knew I didn't really want it. I never wanted a nanny raising my kids. My husband has to ask me questions occasionally, like, "Does D like cheese on his burger?" I am proud that I know the answer. I also know that he wants the ketchup and mustard under the patty and the lettuce on top. And, yes, he likes cheese. Its a small thing and there is a lot more that goes into being a good mom, but it makes me realize I am really good at my job.

Happy Mother's Day to all this weekend.


  • Motherhood is, and always will be, the most demanding job on the planet. More importantly, it is also the most rewarding. I am so thankful I made the choice to stay home with my kids and that I was in a financial position to be able to do so. While in the trenches of diapers, doctor appointments, football practice, and trying to be three places at once, I thought those days would never end. In truth, they fly by and I actually miss them. Cool thing is, now my kids are adults and I absolutely love being able to relate to them on an adult level. Motherhood....the job that just keeps giving!! This is our day to rejoice!!

    By Anonymous Carol, at 5/10/2009 10:28 AM  

  • Very nice post...Happy Mother's Day to you, too!

    By Anonymous Lisa, at 5/10/2009 6:28 PM  

  • Good post - especially when I've had a week when I didn't feel like a very good mother. Reminds me to step back and look at the "big picture."

    By Anonymous tlc, at 5/11/2009 7:11 AM  

  • Hey, I can't wait to be a mother!! Looks like you've done a pretty good job of it, with the 3 fine young men you've raised.

    By Blogger teahouse, at 5/19/2009 10:50 PM  

  • Your answer was perfect. They couldn't be another. :)

    By Blogger Tink, at 5/26/2009 9:34 PM  

  • Our children. As mom, they are our greatest accomplishment. Not work. Everyday when I see what great adults my kids grew up to be, I know everything was worth it. I done did good!

    By Blogger PEACE, at 6/02/2009 12:50 AM  

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